I went back in time for awhile tonight.
Dedmon/Speyer walked the halls of Cabot High again.
It was so strange. It was hallowed ground to us. Yet, it looks completely different. Our auditorium is gutted. There are buildings where we used to park our cars. Everything looks different. But everything felt the same.
Nostalgia at its purest form. Standing there with Jane, Ashley and Gwen. Looking at pictures of our former selves from ten years ago. Standing there with the one friend who has fought with me and for me the hardest. Standing there with my other half.
I was introduced as the Dedmon half. For just those instances we were just alumni. All of the baggage was left at the door. We were witnessing our legacy there.
And then there was this beautiful moment. This moment where Jane looked at me, hugged me and loved me. She loved me because she has known me for over 15 years and has watched me grow. She loves me now because I can't hide the pain.
Like all of the buildings on that campus, I have changed. I'm not that fresh faced naive girl anymore.
I've got scars. I've got a story to tell. It's not always happy. It's not always optimistic. It is filled with faith, grace and lots and lots of love.
I've grown up a lot. I've grown up more than I ever wanted to. But, deep down inside me she is still there. Like the memories in the auditorium, that precious side of me is still there. It may be down in the tip of my pinky toe, but its still there.
I just have to heal enough to let her resurface. No, I will never be the same. I will never go back to the old Tara. That Tara wasn't a mom. But, there are pieces of me that will resurface. I just have to deal with all of this other stuff first.
So, please. Have patience. Have faith. Have hope.
Patience in my grief. I cannot tell you when I will come out of it. Just know I am doing the best I can. Most days I cover it up so as not to make anyone else uncomfortable.
Faith in me. Faith that I will come out of this intact. Faith that my faith will endure.
Hope for a future. I am counting on your hope to inspire mine. I know it's in there. I just need some help finding it.
how a hard, hard year can still be your most abundant year [or: how a hard year can give you a good thanksgiving] - Gratitude follows grace — as thunder follows lightening. And the storm is grace because whatever drives us into God, is a grace from God.
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